Sensitive & Personal Issues

Introduction

When problems are left unresolved they become long-term and gradually they overwhelm the best of us.

The ability to control our own lives gets lost.

Whether it’s a negative emotion, such as anger, fear, sadness, guilt, hurt, anxiety, and so on, a solution can be found.

Overcoming limiting beliefs such as “I’m not good enough”, “I can’t make money”, and “I’m hopeless at relationships” require a fundamental shift, a fundamental change in thinking.

And it can be done.

So, why settle for less?

At times in life we experience confidence issues which in part stem from the way we think about ourselves – limiting beliefs.

These obstacles need to be tackled, overcome and eliminated.

Perhaps it’s best to see problems as nothing more than challenges that can be met, and successfully navigated.

Know Your Mind can help you with a range of difficulties such as anxiety, social anxiety, simple and complex phobias, obsessions, fears, compulsions, confusion and so on.

Change occurs naturally – the question is: is it positive and life-affirming?

Whether it’s an obsession, a form of anxiety, a phobia, or to unlock your dreams, to make it happen requires action.

We are committed to helping people to accept the challenge to overcome any obstacle or setback once they make the key decision, they are serious about helping themselves

Our philosophy is simple.

Empower people to take control of their thoughts, emotions, behaviour and their actions and they will prosper

So if your life is not working the way you want it to be, why not accept the challenge and do something about it?

The change required may be nowhere near as daunting as you imagine!

If you change your thinking, your behaviour will change, and if your behaviour changes you will get different results.

Make a decision to take action.

Anxiety 

Fear is perfectly normal.

Anxiety can stop you from taking unreasonable risks.

However, many people become afraid of situations that are not particularly dangerous.

Anxiety occurs when the perceived difficulty of a situation appears to be much greater than a person’s perceived resources.

In fact, virtually all anxiety disorders can be overcome.

So, what is anxiety? It is a future-based concern that may involve a sense of fear.

Examples of “anxiety” include public speaking, fear of heights, wild storms, visiting the doctor or dentist (ouch!), flying,  driving on freeways or at night, a meeting with the boss, cold calling, being interviewed, and, dare I say it, dealing with the prospective mother-in-law! Ask me how I know!

Think of any situation and you can probably find someone who is afraid of it. These fears are often irrational.

In general, once fears, or a lack of confidence, are replaced with the ability to take comfortable and timely action, a person can find the symptoms of anxiety disappearing, and begin to live an extraordinary life.

Stress and anxiety cause physical and mental illness.

When anxiety and panic attacks are controlled, the body soon becomes much healthier.

Living positively with the energy to create enjoyable mental activity and physical healing is the reward.

Removing anxiety and panic attacks is often all that is needed to help people move forward in life.

This is also significantly true for the treatment of depression.

or depression, drugs alone may not be the most comprehensive answer.

When you take one or more sessions in in NLP, Emotional Intelligence, Time Line Therapy™, and Hypnotherapy with us.

You will learn all the skills you need to deal with serious to less serious issues, such as stress management, fears and phobias, anxiety, self-confidence, smoking, weight loss, relaxation, bed wetting, nail biting, drug abuse, sexual dysfunction, sports performance, pregnancy, and many other situations where a change of thinking, feeling and behaviour is needed.

People who wait too long before taking action often experience a lot of pain and worry before they are motivated to act.

If they let the stress or anxiety levels get too high before they act, it can seriously affect their health and well-being.

It’s best to take action.

Overcome Constant Worry Leading to Anxiety

All of worry us from time to time.

Let’s face it, in the modern world there an awful lot to worry about!

So, what can you do about it?

You have an intelligent mind, it’s a mind that allows you to imagine, dream, and hope.

It’s also a mind that worries and anticipates negative outcomes.

You mind is never still, not even when you’re snoring!

All of this is quite normal, if there is such a thing.

However, some people are habitual worriers, deep worriers.

In many instances worry and its cousins manifests itself in the inability to turn off that nagging voice, the internal dialogue that has no “off” switch.

Of course, because it’s all in the head there’s no escaping it.

It’s far from a simple subject, perhaps because there are so many different types of worry and anxiety.

It includes stress disorders, panic attacks and phobias.

Living with problems like these is tough.

Research has shown that there is often a trigger that begins the trauma and it deeply affects a sufferer emotionally.

Once a memory is involved it becomes much easier to repeat the worry over and over again.

The memory and the emotion won’t let go.

Trying to resist doesn’t work.

What can be done?

There’s medicine, of course.

But what else?

How can we just let go of the worry?

Perhaps, it’s worthwhile looking at what happens in the mind when a mistake of some order is made.

Initially we get a feeling that something is wrong, then we feel anxious about it before correcting the mistake and moving on.

There’s a clue right there.

In the next part I would like to offer a thought on what can be done when it’s not possible to just move on.

Remember you have many faces, many skills, many talents, and some wonderful attributes.

You also have choice.

Perhaps you can choose to look at worries from more than one perspective and re-label the experience. 

Managing Stress

What is stress?

The most commonly accepted definition of stress is that it is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that “demands exceed the personal and social resources they are able to mobilize in a situation.”

We can easily become irritable, jumpy, edgy and anxious.

These symptoms of stress reduce the ability to work effectively on your own and with other people.

Whenever we experience an unexpected event, or have to deal with something that frustrates us, “stress” is generated.

If the threat is small, our response is small.

Stress relief is not needed, and we often do not notice it among the many other distractions we face in our daily lives.

If the threat is high and prolonged serious illnesses such as severe anxiety, panic attacks, and depression can result.

However, these conditions can be helped and lessened with cognitive tools – mindset tools.

How stressed someone feels depends on how much damage they think a situation can do to them, and how closely their resources meet the demands of the situation.

When people feel stressed, they have made two main judgments:

First, they feel threatened by the situation, and second, they believe that their capabilities and resources are not enough to meet the perceived threat.

Generally when stressed, we find ourselves more accident-prone and less able to make good decisions.

Management of stress becomes too difficult.

Before long a vicious circle can kick in and stress can progressively become unmanageable.

Perception is a key issue and it is our interpretation of a situation that drives the level of stress we feel.

Very often, however, we are overly harsh on ourselves and exaggerate the threat.

This, along with negative thinking, can cause intense stress and unhappiness and can severely undermine a person’s self-confidence.

There are many proven methods that can be used to manage stress.

These methods and the skills learned will help a person to remain calm and effective in high pressure situations, and help them to avoid exacerbating the problem.

NLP and complementary tools, including hypnosis, and emotional intelligence can help you to change this negative way of thinking and an over-emotional response.

They will provide you with the tools to again enjoy life.

Phobias

Fears and phobias limit your ability to get the most from your life.

In extreme cases the fear can prevent you from living even a relatively normal life.

In all cases the “fear” can be overcome – not necessarily with medical treatment, but through learning how to manage your own thoughts and feelings.

Most single-issue phobias and “fears” can be resolved in a short period of time using NLP, emotional intelligence, hypnosis and Time Line Therapy.

Even complex phobias such as fear of flying or claustrophobia can be overcome through the same process.

What is fear?

We experience “fear” when we believe we do not have the ability to cope with something.

The fear may be grounded in reality, such being frightened of being knocked down by a car when trying to cross a busy road, or the fear may be irrational such as when we see a small spider.

Many of our fears, even social phobia, are a mix of reality and a misinterpretation of our ability to cope.

If there is a large degree of misinterpretation it is likely that the problem is a phobia and not a fear.

What is a phobia?

A “phobia” is mainly an irrational fear of something. It is important to recognize that a phobia is not an illness, nor a mental disorder.

A phobia does not exist because of the lack of will-power.

A phobia can make a person’s life miserable, cause acute embarrassment, and undermine a person’s self-confidence and self-esteem.

Let’s take a look at the range and types of phobias.

A phobia list can appear to be endless!

Simple Phobias include the fear of a single stimulus, for example, fear of heights, ladders, frogs, enclosed places, and so on.

Complex Phobias: such as a fear of a number of stimuli.

In fear of flying, for example, the person may be afraid of crashing, being enclosed in the plane, losing self-control and so on.

Social Phobias: normally indicate you are afraid of what might occur when in the company of other people.

This can include fear of blushing, losing self-control, forgetting what you are about to say, fear of trembling, and so on.

A panic attack can be a terrifying ordeal unless you understand what is happening, and why it is happening.

Panic attacks are very common and appear to affect people who normally give an impression of being confident, reliable and dependable.

Agoraphobia: Literally “fear of the market place” and, until recently the term was used to describe people who were afraid of open spaces.

It is now used to describe people who experience increasing nervousness the further they travel from their own home.

In severe cases some people may not be confident to venture from home at all.

NLP, emotional intelligence, hypnosis and Time Line Therapy can help you to safely confront phobias and fears by disassociating and reframing your experience.

The method is essentially a desensitization technique performed in a short space of time.

Why continue living with this kind of emotional baggage.

It’s far better to take action!

Relationships

“Relationship” issues can be tough to resolve on your own.

Relationship advice from friends, colleagues, well-meaning, and well-intentioned people  is nice but rarely solves the problem.

Professional counselling can help.

“Counselling” can create the right atmosphere so the “best” solutions can be identified and tackled with confidence.

This applies to marriage counselling, couples counselling, or when counselling is required for other situations, such as work related.

Do any of these relationship situations apply to you:

Are you currently unhappy with a relationship?

Are you searching in vain for the right partner?

Have you experienced periods of feeling unloved?

Do you feel unappreciated?

Do you feel lonely, trapped, or isolated?

Do you believe your partner does not understand you?

Do your children sometimes distress you?

And so on.

Do you believe you are at the stage when counselling would be useful and beneficial for you?

Do you want to:

  • enjoy the experience of being really involved in a relationship
  • develop and maintain a satisfying relationship
  • develop real satisfaction in all areas of your daily life
  • experience true love
  • be much more confident
  • and be able to communicate more effectively what you need
  • and enjoy freedom and happiness
  • and find the right partner for you

Then be confident with Know Your Mind you will succeed.

We use highly pertinent and advanced therapeutic techniques from NLP, Hypnotherapy, Time Line Therapy, and Belief Change Solutions to help people to relate much better, to overcome their difficulties.

We will be delighted to meet your individual needs.

You know, sometimes it’s just a matter of improving the lines of communication.

Take the first step towards a more fulfilling relationship.

You’ll be surprised how possible it is to overcome difficulties that may have seemed insurmountable.

So whatever the issues are in your relationships we are committed to providing you with the very best personal and professional skills that you need right now.

Whatever you are looking for in your relationships, we are committed to providing you or your family with the very best personal and professional skills you need right now.

Limiting Beliefs

The goal for any desired outcome should be simple: Have a method of managing your “emotions” so you can leverage your physical and mental resources in the most optimum way.

Limiting beliefs and lack of confidence will restrict your ability to succeed.

What you believe affects your habits and confidence no matter what ideally you set your heart on.

All limiting beliefs are preceded by a limiting decision we make about ourselves usually during a significant emotional event when we are quite young, or in a stressful time.

Emotional assumptions about ourselves are made.

These decisions limit our thinking, how we feel, and subsequent behaviour.

“I can’t do this” or “I’m no good at that” kind of thinking.

These limiting decisions get locked into our subconscious minds and can continue to cause problems with our self-belief, thinking, and emotions throughout our lives.

The good news is that once you release and let go of the negative emotion, you can let go of the limiting decision, and free yourself from the past belief.

Once free of the past you are then able to make the present and future the way you want them to be.

You can go ahead and create your own future.

With the right tools – NLP, hypnosis, emotional intelligence and Time Line Therapy you can resolve unfortunate memories from the past and get the learnings.

You will release the emotions that inhibit behaviour and likely prospects.

Why continue to drag around emotional baggage from the past?

Why not get the learnings?

Why not fully release your skills, talents and attributes and live your life without looking over your shoulder?

Imagine finally eliminating a negative emotion and a limiting belief that has held you back!

Imagine being free to openly pursue your dreams!

Perhaps it’s time!

Internal Conflict

“Conflict” is defined as “a state of disharmony between incompatible persons, ideas, or interests.”

Psychologically, conflict is a mental struggle, sometimes an unconscious struggle, which happens when conflicting internal representations of the world are held.

Conflicts can occur either between parts of ourselves internally (inner conflict) or externally with others (interpersonal conflict).

The dilemma posed by an internal conflict is usually an emotional or ethical over-reaction to the way we respond to a difficult situation.

Internal conflict typically results in subjectively asking questions such as “what was it I did wrong?

Conflicting “Parts”

Sometimes people experience a sense of being in “two minds” or “at odds” within themselves.

Part of their mind wants to do one thing while another part wants to do something else, usually the opposite.

When internal conflict occurs a battle begins between the two competing parts.

Then we quickly become frustrated.

If left untreated it can lead to other more serious problems.

It is important to recognise that all conflict can be overcome.

Parts Integration

NLP has processes that can resolve these issues.

Parts Integration is one of these.

Conflict integration is one of the major NLP interventions and generally produces a successful outcome to the many mental, physical, emotional and interpersonal problems people often experience.

The following is a general overview of the NLP approach to addressing internal conflict:

  • Clearly identify the key issues involved in the conflict – the two parts
  • Note these “conflicts” are usually expressed as opposites (part of me wants to be fit, part of me hates exercise)
  • Find the positive intention and purpose behind the issues of each part
  • Make sure that each part recognises and acknowledges the positive intent of the other part
  • Chunk up until a common intention on a higher level has been identified that both parts share eg the love of learning
  • Integrate the parts

NLP is the mindset technology that provides a rich set of tools for dealing with internal and interpersonal conflicts.

These tools include techniques of reframing, conflict integration, shifting perceptual positions, and many fundamental communication skills such as the Meta Model, calibration and non-verbal communication methods in addition to the parts integration process.

Motivation

I’m sure you have all experienced a lack of motivation on occasions when you just knew you had to get something done, but for the life of you, you simply couldn’t rouse yourself enough to act.

For many, it can be a mild case of procrastination, or even a severe problem such as the fear of failure.

Some mornings you just want to stay in bed, warm, comfortable, cosy and secure.

“Go away, world!” you think.

Other mornings? You seem able to leap out of bed and greet the day ready for anything that gets thrown at you.

Problem? What problem?

The bigger the challenge the more capable you seem to be.

You perform brilliantly because you feel “inspired”.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could be like this every day?

Sometimes, however, you just feel stuck, blocked and unable to move.

You might wish that there was a door with a sign “Be Inspired” that you could simply walk through.

You could move out of the gloom and into the sunlight and allow your mind to radically shift state!

Well, “Know Your Mind” is such a door.

To excel in any endeavour requires passion.

Why not make the decision to get the tools, the right tools, and radically improve your results!

Why settle for less?

NLP, emotional intelligence, hypnosis and generative psychology are the tools to overcome these mindset challenges.

Learn the right skills and before you know it you will feel uplifted, confident and raring to go.

What a great feeling to have! And it can be yours!

Why not make it yours!

You can learn how to quickly, easily and effortlessly change your state, and do it at will.

You will literally be able to turn on and turn off your own inspirational tap.

If you need the energy, it will be there.

If you require inspiration it’s yours.

No matter what a situation calls for you will have an internal, rock solid confidence of knowing how to respond in the moment.

Come and join us and you will have these magnificent, wonderful tools to inspire you to get what you really deserve in life.

You will be able to change your life with complete confidence.

Weight Loss

Do weight loss programs seem attractive to you?

Does a quick fix weight loss diet seem all too appealing?

“If I could just do a quick weight loss program I would then alter my eating habits!”

Sound familiar?

In general, why do people overeat?

Well, it can be complex.

But it’s more or less an in-the-moment activity based on the belief that it will make you feel good.

To succeed, reducing weight needs an approach that switches from “feelings” to a more visual approach.

Let’s face it, we all want to look better, don’t we?

Keep in mind, looking better is something that is going to happen in the future, not today.

So, we begin a “weight loss” program, a new diet.

We believe that swapping something that feels good right now for how we will look in the future is the way to go.

“This is what I’ll do!”

It makes perfect sense.

But we never get there.

Cutting down bad habits is one thing, and beginning a healthy balanced diet with daily exercise is crucial, but it is vital to recognise that weight loss diets rarely work permanently.

Short-term pleasure soon dissolves.

The weight comes back with a vengeance.

Ask yourself some simple yet profound questions:

Do you find losing that last 10 pounds just too difficult?

Would you like to stop late night snacking?

Do you find it difficult to say no to second helpings?

Do you want to lose weight permanently?

Do you want to feel really happy with your body?

Well, we will show you how to change the way you think and feel about food forever.

It has absolutely nothing to do with dieting. NOTHING!

You must understand and tackle your emotional triggers and remove or replace them.

Do it once, do it properly and you will get the body you desire.

When you identify and eliminate the triggers that cause emotional eating, it is far easier to lose the excess weight and never gain it back.

If you do not identify and destroy these triggers you will simply stay on the same emotional treadmill and fail to get the result you could easily have .

The emotions that get generated just before we eat can be identified and changed.

Changing an internal representation from kinesthetic (feelings) to a visual picture of looking great, and having this representation firmly in mind every time food enters your mind is a great start.

NLP, emotional intelligence, belief change solutions, and hypnosis can help you if you:

  • Eat when you are not hungry, or you seem to always feel hungry
  • Feel you are not in control of your food intake
  • Can’t stop eating once you get started
  • Feel a strong emotion to eat, and don’t quickly stop once you get started
  • Eat to end unhappiness, pain, or fill the emptiness in your life
  • Can’t get or stay motivated to lose weight
  • Continually re-gain all the weight you have worked so hard to lose

With the right mindset technologies, the emotional habit of eating unnecessarily can be eliminated completely.

Visit Know Your Mind and you will leave knowing you have finally got the permanent answer you’ve always wanted.

Do yourself a huge favour:

Decide there will be NO MORE YO-YO diets!

Decide to look and feel great!

Depression

Depression is a serious mental illness. It is vital for a person suffering from this condition, or if they feel that they may be suffering in this way, to go and see a doctor.

A thorough assessment of a person’s physical and mental health is essential.

Professional help is always available.

Don’t wait – act.

An important area that can help to produce results is the use of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).

This form of counselling intervention can be used to complement medication.

It includes monitoring the thoughts a person has about themselves.

Constantly thinking negative thoughts it is likely to cause a lowering of someone’s mood. It is cause and effect.

If this goes on over a long period of time it becomes incredibly unhelpful and is likely to make a mental condition much worse.

Now, we all have had experiences of stressful situations.

CBT can help a person to think more clearly about life’s problems and its daily challenges.

Importantly, there are ways to overcome debilitating mental setbacks using CBT, NLP, Time Line Therapy™ Emotional Intelligence, Generative Psychology, and Hypnotherapy.

These tools can produce significantly beneficial results when dealing with these issues.

When you take one or more sessions in NLP, Time Line Therapy™, Emotional Intelligence and Hypnotherapy, you will learn the skills needed to handle your mind in a better way.

You will be able to deal with many related disorders, such as stress management, fears, phobias, and general and specific anxiety.

The state of someone’s mind can result in a huge hit on their self-confidence, and cause the inability to relax, tiredness, and lethargy.

Drug abuse and sexual dysfunction can also occur if the condition is left untreated.

People who wait too long before taking action often experience a lot of pain and worry before they are motivated to act.

If they let the stress or anxiety levels get too high before they act, it can seriously affect their health and well-being.

It is better to take action and act.

Getting in contact with your local doctor is the most important first step. 

Quit Smoking

Is smoking addictive or is it just a bad habit?

So when do people smoke?

Some people smoke in the morning in order to “wake up”.

Others smoke during the day to “reduce stress,” or to “concentrate”.

Others smoke at night to “relax”.

Sometimes some people smoke because it’s the one thing they do for themselves to bring some private pleasure into their lives.

Attempting to quit smoking without finding alternatives to the important reasons why people smoke can lead to a series of new problems.

And they won’t quit.

It must be understood a person has to be motivated to stop.

And they must want to quit for themselves – not for their parents, not for their children, not for their spouse, their partner, their work colleagues, and so on.

It must be for themselves.

A key is to find all of the triggers – what causes a person to light up a cigarette, each and every time they do this, and deal with those triggers separately.

Once you have a comprehensive list of all the triggers you will have the  root cause of why a person smokes.

And the triggers can be replaced or removed.

Given it is accepted that smoking does have health consequences, it’s better to quit for good.

Now I believe the tools of NLP, emotional intelligence, hypnosis and time line therapy are needed to get a permanent result.

With the right mindset technologies, the habit of smoking can be completely eliminated.

Visit Know Your Mind and you will leave as a non-smoker breathing in fresh air for the rest of your life!

Imagine the benefits.

With the right change, life can suddenly become simply wonderful!