Many people think that to communicate really effectively and be successful you need to be able to effortlessly speak in an interesting fashion, a fashion that almost miraculously captivates and holds somebody else’s attention.

Actually, nothing could be further from the truth!

Let’s discuss the real secret of highly effective communication. 

So, you must have skill, charm and charisma, and be recognised as humorous, with a rare ability to tell wonderful, imaginative stories.
Agreed?

Add to this talent an extensive general knowledge in a variety of subjects and, of course, people will be transfixed and hypnotised by you, won’t they?

So, to be a much better communicator you must be articulate, outgoing and magnetically expressive. You must be a superior talker. 
Well, no, none of this is true.

So, what is the real secret of superior communication?

It is to ask good questions, and then pause, STOP, and be an attentive listener. 
It’s as simple as that. 

The art of brilliant communication relies on your ability to ask good, even great questions, and to listen attentively to the answers before you speak again.

There’s nothing to stop you from adding your carefully chosen insights, ideas, and opinions, but the important point to keep in mind is to always keep your ego in check, and to focus on perfecting the art of asking the right questions.

Yes, your questions need to be worded and directed well.

You do this by asking open-ended questions that cannot be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.”

Open-ended questions encourage a person to expand on their thoughts and this allows you to gain knowledge of them at a deeper level.

Remember this, ask one good question and it will lead to another.
People will like you.

It’s super smart to master how to ask well-targeted, open-ended questions.

Once you have achieved this you will draw out of the other person everything they can say on a specific subject. You will begin to know them intimately.

Remember, you have many faces, many skills, many talents, and some wonderful attributes.

You also have choice.

Why not choose to master how to ask great questions and then enjoy watching your communication skills and results soar!