If You Want Results Learn How to Control Your Behaviour – Begin With Two Simple Questions

Summary

One of the keys to getting what you want is to alter your thinking, state and physiology.

Your state is how you feel – your emotional state, and your physiology is how you are holding your body.

Of course, what you think affects the way you feel.

This in turn will influence your body language.

Why should this matter?

Have you ever wondered what other people think when they observe you?

What impression do you unknowingly provide?

Stop for a moment and reflect on the information you are holding in your mind right now.

Initially an internal representation is formed of some external stimuli.

This is created though your senses.

The representation formed is immediately fuelled by two other critical aspects of internal communication – how you feel and the body language being expressed.

If you want to create a favorable impression make sure all three are working seamlessly together.

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Perhaps it’s worth realizing that one of the keys to getting what you want is to adjust your behaviour when results are not forthcoming.

Fine, but what does this really mean?

It may be time to consider altering the process that leads to the way you subsequently behave.

In fact, the combination of what you think, the way in which you feel, and what your body language reveals, will determine your behaviour.

It is your behaviour that gets results, good and not so good.

So, your results are directly attributed to your thinking, state and physiology.

It is not just about the quality of your thinking!

Moreover, it is easy to ignore an emotion you may be feeling, or indeed, several emotions you may be experiencing in a given moment.

But emotions shouldn’t be overlooked. Assessing your emotional state is vital to your well-being.

This means that what you think – your mind set, gets coupled with how you feel – your emotions, and is joined by your body language – what you reveal to create your behaviour.

If you are not getting the results you want, why not consider altering any one of these three elements of communication?

If you integrate all three, it will radically change your behaviour and the results you achieve.

The task is to blend perfectly these three aspects of communication in a given situation to get the outcome desired.

As a simple test, ask yourself: What would somebody else think about you from observing your posture?

What impression do you unknowingly provide?

What does your body language reveal about you?

What does your body language say about your emotions?

What does it say about your mind set?

All these signals are always on display.

Now consider the information you are holding in your head in any given moment.

Whatever internal representation you are holding in your mind is fuelled by two other critical aspects of communication – how you feel and your body language.

If you want to create a favorable impression make sure all three are working seamlessly together.

if you want to get more out of life this can be a way to get it!

Stated below are two simple questions that can help you to take control of your thinking to give yourself the best chance to create a favorable impression and set up the right conditions for success:

1) How do I feel right now?

What emotional state are you in?

As we all know, on some days we get out of bed feeling that nothing can stop us.

We feel indestructible!

On these days life flows really smoothly.

In the blink of an eye the day is over and everything seems to have fallen into place.

Yes, you end up rather tired, but with a sense of joy and satisfaction.

That’s great, but what about the other days? “I don’t want to attend that meeting…”

“I don’t want to make that call…” and so on.

The worm has turned and we give ourselves several reasons to shut out the world.

Hey, leave me alone is the cry! We shut down emotionally.

So, begin by asking yourself this question and drill down to get an accurate response.

How do I feel?

Okay, I feel sad.

Well, on a scale of 1 to 10, how sad?

Let me see, a 7 is about right.

Now we know the extent of the sadness and sets up the frame for the next question.

2) How do I want to feel?

Consider what it is you are about to do and determine the best state to be in to accomplish the task.

If you are about to go for a coffee, take a deep breath and relax.

Audibly sigh to let your brain know what chemicals to fire.

Drop your shoulders, close your eyes for a moment, and assume a sense of peacefulness.

Sense your emotions calming down.

Notice a shift in your mind set. Watch your body language alter.

If you are about to get out of the car and walk to the door at home after a tough day, stop for a moment and reflect on how blessed you are.

You may have formed a negative feeling as high as 7 out of 10 during the course of the day, but start to think of the (hopefully) loved ones inside the house who care about you.

Perhaps they have had a frustrating day too. Now get a feeling of joy in your body.

Think about how lucky you are.

Go into that state.

Now get out of the car swinging your briefcase or handbag and show the people who really matter how wonderful they are and what a fabulous person they have in their lives.

Conclusion:

How you think, feel and hold yourself will determine whether what you want to accomplish will be achieved.

This is emotional intelligence at work and play.

Get this right and your behaviour will change and improved results will occur.

No matter what the context, the trick in any situation is to quickly get into the relevant state and be willing to do it exquisitely.

Get into the ideal state for the behaviour required.

Change your mindset.

The complementary physiology will immediately follow.

Be aware that your physiology will act in tandem with your psychology.

Body language and mindset in lockstep.

If this isn’t tackled it may well result in a limiting response and a negative outcome.

Less than what may be possible will be achieved and you will feel less empowered.

These two simple questions can be used to set up a successful approach to anything you may wish to achieve in life.

They can be used in any context, from the most mundane to the absolute critical.

They will guide your thinking and trigger the most effective behaviour.

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Can The Power Of The Mind Be Used To Stop Pain?

Summary

Switching off the conscious left-side of the brain, and switching on the creative right-side of the brain allows greater access to the subconscious.

This is where the action really happens.

Getting more in touch with the rhythm of life and away from cognitive or cortical processing could be a useful starting point to getting what you want and controlling pain.

It shouldn’t be a surprise that some people do unbelievably amazing things once they learn how to use, and resolve to practice, certain natural, simple, but highly effective processes.

In short: To feel better, think better!

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How possible is it to use the incredible and complex power of the mind to produce a particular result that you may want?

Can the mind be used as a kind of placebo and conditioned to drive effortlessly towards any given outcome?

If the mind can do almost anything once it has a clear direction and is coupled with the will and drive to pursue a goal, then how well do you use the power of your mind to get what you want?

It seems that if we can just harness the power of our brains, anything and everything is possible.

This is rather a nice thought, but is it true?

If so, how true is it for you?

It is accepted that the human brain is the most complex machine on earth.

It weighs around 1.3 kilos, contains 100 billion neurons and is responsible for our thoughts, ideas, emotions, memories and actions.

And we all have one!

But do brains have undiscovered or under utilised powers that can be used to overcome many of the illnesses and discomfort we experience daily?

Whether it is a combination of stress and pain, or mind and pain, can using the power of the mind overcome these and other pain related difficulties?

Certainly the most common illnesses and related pain would be an ideal target.

So, do we all possess god-given, supernatural, but largely hidden and unused gifts?

Is it simply a case of not knowing how to tap into this “birthright” in the practical world?

Can pain be overcome with the “right” mindset? Is pain in the mind?

I bet this has happened to you – your mind suddenly thinks of somebody you haven’t spoken to in a long time, and, lo and behold, you bump into the next day!

Why does this happen?

Is it just a roll of the dice and mere co-incidence or something a little deeper?

Can this kind of “accident” be put to more practical use?

Visualisation can be enormously helpful.

It is common practice for all kinds of sports people to use their minds to visualise what they want their bodies to do when they enter the field of play.

This one process is known to improve performance, often considerably.

Fantastic, but what about pain?

Can focusing the power of the mind in this way be used to overcome pain?

Well, let’s stop and consider how pain makes its presence so keenly felt.

In truth, pain requires conscious attention, a mindset focused on pain, to produce the effect.

So pain is in the mind.

But, to feel pain we have to be conscious.

This is the main reason why a person is made unconscious if they are suffering once a serious injury has occurred.

Given we live in a visual world and a cyberspace reality, perhaps one answer to the pain riddle could be to distract the mind using some form of virtual reality so the conscious mind is distracted enough to prevent it thinking about the residual pain.

Learning how to use meditation, self-hypnosis and visualisation can produce a significant payoff.

Of course, hypnosis is grossly misunderstood by most people.

It is assumed to be a sleep state, rather than a state of absorption, focus and attention.

Switching off the conscious left-side of the brain, and switching on the creative right-side allows greater access to the subconscious.

Getting more in touch with the rhythm of life and away from cognitive or cortical processing could be a useful starting point.

It shouldn’t be a surprise that some people do unbelievably amazing things once they learn how to use, and resolve to practice, these natural, simple, but highly effective methods.

To feel better, think better!

Get your mindset right and decide to tackle the way you think about pain.

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Are You Sure You Really Know What Is Being Said?

Summary

Determining exactly what the body language of a person is revealing requires an awareness of the characteristics the person being observed normally exhibits.

This is often referred to in body language circles as a “general cluster” and is idiosyncratic of the person specifically being judged.

It is unfortunately relatively simple to overlook these core attributes when assessing a person’s body language and concluding what is meant.

This is why many people jump to the wrong conclusions when assessing the signals on show.

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We all know what is body language is, but how can it be successfully interpreted?

Determining exactly what the body language of a person is revealing requires an awareness of the characteristics the person being observed normally exhibits.

This is often referred to in body language circles as a “general cluster” and is idiosyncratic of the person specifically being judged.

It is unfortunately relatively simple to overlook these core attributes when assessing a person’s body language and coming to an erroneous conclusion.

This is why many people jump to the wrong conclusions when assessing the body language signals on display.

A solitary gesture should not be interpreted in isolation and used as proof of a specific intent.

Body language interpretation is not the same as mind-reading!

The psychology of success often means changing your mind set.

To read body language successfully requires awareness and a different mind set.

Certain gestures are interpreted in a consistent manner and frequently occur across cultures.

Even so it is dangerous to assume a similar meaning applies to all observations.

For example, folding ones arms does not necessarily mean the person is against something, or closed down, negative and unhappy.

They could quite easily be a little cold, or just feel comfortable using this physical expression.

So, to read body language accurately an effort needs to be made to collect a number of cues before deriving a specific meaning.

This can be accomplished quite quickly and done outside of a person’s awareness.

The aim is to collect every piece of information available before making a considered decision.

Remember we want to scrutinize a general cluster of facts.

A man scratching his head may mean he is uncertain or forgetful, or he could even be lying.

Then again it just might indicate that he needs a quick visit to the supermarket to purchase a “Head and Shoulders” type product to overcome an irritating bout of dandruff!

Another cue that falls into this category is the well-known and frowned upon “limp-wrist” handshake.

Yes, it could well be a person having a less than confident nature, but what if they had a rather painful arthritic wrist or tennis elbow?

What is the best way to eliminate making simple, yet understandable mistakes when reading body language?

Well, it is important to avoid second-guessing and to apply a little patience.

A cluster of gestures means assessing a number of body language signals that tends to occur simultaneously.

A nice way to think about gestures is to use the analogy of words in a sentence.

When words and punctuation are combined in a sentence they obviously give rise to what the sentence actually means.

A word by itself, even a commonly understood word, can have several meanings and be open to subjective meaning.

This is why words behave like anchors. It is the act of combining words, punctuation, and gestures that properly constitutes what is fully meant.

Commonly understood words have a range of meanings and are often interpreted according to the listener’s personal experiences.

What does the word “love” mean to you?

Probably different to what it means to me – at least I hope so!

It is only when words are arranged into a completed sentence that meaning becomes clear, and even then this is not always the case.

Meaning is subjective and reading body language properly has similar characteristics.

The trick when assessing and reading body language is to match the words spoken to the non-verbal gestures on show.

This provides significant and often foolproof information.

It does require using your senses fully to home in on several cues simultaneously.

The watchful observer will overtime notice some rather peculiar behaviours which quickly provide a clear insight to how a person really thinks and feels.

This includes seeing a person shake their heads while agreeing with what you are saying!

Watch the whole body carefully, but be careful to do this without looking weird!

Do not stare! In the same way that rapport is established, it is a subtle process and it must be done outside of a person’s knowledge.

Use your peripheral vision to accomplish this.

Change your mindset, ignore single signals, and watch carefully.

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