For change to happen, is it just enough to focus on what you want?
Well, getting what you want may require radical psychological and emotional surgery to cut into how you currently think and behave.
Let’s discuss what this may mean.
I’ll assume you are now clear about your aim.
You know the kind of change you need to embrace.
You know what you want.
The next step is to become faithful to your aim.
What does this mean?.
Throughout your waking day you should notice every reaction you sense with regard to your aim, how you think, feel and behave.
By observing your reactions to the daily events in your life, you will be able to identify whether you are indeed faithful to your aim.
There will be give away moments.
If you are faithful to your ideal, your reactions will conform to your aim, they will be complementary, you will identify yourself with your aim, you will think from your aim and everything about you will be geared towards your aim.
The end result?
You are taking a huge leap towards getting what you want.
The next step is to practice separation.
You need to set about the task of entering the state or states you want.
You need to be able to move psychologically and emotionally from where you are to where you desire to be.
You need to operate from a psychological, emotional and physiological state of excellence.
The purpose of practicing separation is to distance yourself from your present reactions to how your life is.
You want to be able attach yourself wholeheartedly to your aim.
This inner separation is developed by practice and commitment.
Once you are committed things begin to happen, things begin to change.
The door is now open. You will be able to see your aim.
At first it may seem you have little power to separate yourself from your undesirable inner states.
This is because you have always taken every mood, every reaction, as being perfectly normal, perfectly natural.
This is the way you have begun to form your identify.
Thinking and emotional habits are formed overtime and your behaviour becomes, well, rather predictable.
You have programmed yourself and done a first class job.
Think about the ideal state you need to be in to get your aim, to get your goal.
And practice getting into that state.
Step into each of those states.
Stand, walk, talk, think, breathe as if you are in that state.
Then move on to the next state.
Notice that it gets much easier to do this.