In Part Eight, we will look at some of the key attributes that distinguishes a master coach from a capable coach.
Emotional IQ has several additional competences to the ones already mentioned.
A master coach has these skills.
These competencies will provide you with the skill to easily motivate both yourself and others, and get the very best out of the people you coach.
People sense this concern and will readily respond.
The skill to easily motivate both yourself and others, and get the very best out of the people you coach is a hallmark of the master coach.
As said, people sense this concern and you will be rewarded.
If there is a trick, it is to see the world from their perspective.
But beware – you want to avoid being hypnotised into their problem state, so remain a little detached, but genuinely curious.
It is enormously useful to keenly develop your empathy.
Reading the body language of people and using influence and persuasion to get the best out of them is key to this.
The simplest approach is to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, being somewhat dissociated at times, and begin to see the world from their perspective.
You can seek to understand the pressures, responsibilities, expectations, and demands they feel are placed upon them.
Make enquires about their world before judging and jumping to conclusions.
If you don’t understand something, do not hesitate!
Go ahead and ask them to explain certain things, by saying something along the lines:
“I’d like to know more about that.”
Explore why they reason in the way they do.
Behind every “position” and argument is a set of thoughts and feelings underpinning the position a person takes.
Habit plays a part in this.
By seeking to understand the other person’s reasoning, it builds a bridge to an understanding of why they think and behave in the way that they do.
This reasoning directly affects the results they achieve.
Always ask pertinent questions.
For example you can ask:
What do you really, really want?
To inspire confidence, you could suggest:
How would you feel if we double that goal?
Then you map the actions and ask:
On a scale of 1 to 10, how excited do you feel about taking these actions?
Then move on to:
How could you increase that score?
This can help to overcome procrastination, limiting beliefs and so on.
If appropriate ask:
How can we make this something you’re aiming for rather than something you’re trying to avoid?
In other words, moving towards prosperity is more motivating than moving away from hardship.
If you were your own coach, what coaching would you give yourself right now?
Some of the attributes a super coach should target include:
1. Have clear, concise, and advanced communication skills.
2. Enjoy problem solving and making decisions.
3. Prefer to listen rather than talk!
4. Have developed natural empathy, patience and caring.
5. Know when to be gentle and when to be tough.
6. Be consistently objective and persevering.Change state if and when you need to. Step into it!
7. Be ever ready to share knowledge and skills.
8. Have self-awareness, self-control and be self-motivated.
You will also find a master coach has poise, and knows when and how to be outgoing – they adapt easily.
They are committed to people and their causes.
They are genuinely sympathetic and caring.
It is not about being soft – a master coach knows when to get tough and sets realistic, challenging goals.
A master coach has a philosophy of lifetime learning.
One characteristic stands out – a master coach is easy to get along with.
Above all, they are comfortable within themselves.
Ongoing development of these skills and attributes is vital and will mark the difference between competence and mastery.
Why not take some time to assess your own strengths and weaknesses in these areas?
The payoff will be enormous and you can do it!