First the important question:
What do you want?
The purpose of this question is to identify where change even radical change may be required so you can feel confident that you can go out and get what you want.
Let me ask you some simple questions.
They point perfectly to how you tend to respond emotionally to many of the events in your life.
How do you feel right now?
How would you like to feel?
What strategies do you have so you can feel the way you want to feel?
How would you like to feel for the rest of the day?
What about tomorrow?
Change cannot take place until you first determine what it is about YOU that needs to change.
To discover this it requires an uncritical observation of your reactions, your responses, to what is happening in your life. The way it makes you feel.
This requires brutal honesty.
And, yes, ouch!
It can hurt…
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The sum total of these reactions defines your conscious state. This is your unique state of consciousness which attracts all of the circumstances into your life that affects your life, the good and the not so good.
So the practical starting point is self-observation. Once you understand your reactions to life, you will have key information, and this information reveals your secret self. You will now have the cause which creates all of the effects in your life.
This sounds pretty simple, but what do most of us prefer to do? We surround ourselves with what we believe is the true image of ourselves.
This conditions what we see, what we hear, and how we feel on the inside. And it is supported by our self-talk. In other words, we kind of delude ourselves.
There is a definite correlation, a connection between what is outer - what you think you see, your sense of reality, and what is inner - your internal state, the way you feel.
It’s your internal state that attracts your outer life. In other words, what you perceive to be true is projected straight back on to you.
What the thinker thinks, the feeler feels. So, for change to take place you must start with yourself. I mean you can only change you, so it is YOU that must change.
Spend some quiet, quality time and reflect on your life. Discover what it is that you want, really want. And give yourself permission to think big. It may be time for change, quality change. This may require an honest appraisal and some work on your beliefs.