Emotional intelligence is all about the effective use of emotions.
Charles Darwin spoke about this in the 1800’s a long time ago, so it has been around for a considerable amount of time.
Incorporating emotions and emotional information into your decision-making, problem solving and thinking, and being highly competent at shifting your mood will allow you to capitalise on any situation when you are engaged in a discussion that offers possibilities.
This approach should become an essential part of the way you communicate and be developed to form your overall communication skills.
We’ve talked about shifting your state using some simple yet highly effective communication strategies, such as recalling a positive memory and stepping into a specific state, altering your physiology, vigorous movement, breathing deeply, relaxing your face and neck, and expanding your range of vision.
Other methods include listening to music and paying attention to someone else.
The secret is to stay open to emotion.
“How often do I think about my emotions?”
Paying attention to your own feelings is instrumental in observing how others are feeling and having the flexibility to alter your own state.
Why not take some time and determine which emotions give you the most discomfort and then work on these emotions
Actively look for every opportunity to practice your skills.
Being mindful will begin to alter how you emotionally behave in any situation where you want to influence and persuade.
Influencing through using emotions is the secret.
In general, a useful starting point for improving your ability to read emotions accurately is to observe other people.
Pay attention to their facial expressions, gestures, and body language.
Also focus on the tone of voice to determine whether it matches a person’s facial expressions and body language.